Taking on the Elephant in the Room
Once the holiday decorations are packed away, the New Year has been toasted, the kids are back in school, and life has settled back into the same old routine, many couples find themselves right back where they were before, rehashing the same old problems. Some have been doing it so long, it has simply become part of the fabric of their lives, always there in the background, lurking like the proverbial elephant in the room.
These couples often go through the motions of life, day after day, pretending like everything is normal, ignoring the tension they feel simmering just below the surface. On days dedicated to celebrating relationships – anniversaries, birthdays, Valentine’s Day – they might bury the hurt deep inside, dress for a dinner out, and put a happy face on for the world to see. All the while, they both know that the longer they ignore the conflict, the closer the strain will push their relationship to the breaking point.
Too many couples live their lives pretending that everything is fine when it isn’t, and accepting that this is just the way things are going to be. They have reached a sticking point in a relationship that has come to feel like a house of cards, and they can’t seem to move past it without knocking the entire thing down.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. There is a proven process for working through and resolving even the most intractable relationship problems, and you and your partner owe it to yourselves to try it.
Dispute resolution is a tried-and-true, objective method for pinpointing each person’s deepest feelings and motives, understanding where the other person is coming from, and working together to agree on a path that leads you both safely past the sticking point.
Because it takes emotion off the table, it allows both parties to express how they really feel, without fear of reprisal. And because the process teaches people how to actively listen and negotiate fairly, it gives couples the tools they need to head off any future conflicts before they can become relationship-killers.
Don’t spend another day dancing around the elephant in the room, wondering when the pressure will finally build up to a breaking point. You owe it to yourselves to put this behind you, once and for all, and to find your path forward – together.
Contact me to learn more about my private mediation sessions, where I can guide you and your family member through the entire process of reaching resolution, together.