Marriage Counseling Vs. Dispute Resolution
When couples get to a sticking point in their relationships, many assume that the next step should be marriage or couples counseling. But many couples are surprised to find that counseling may not actually be the fastest and most effective way to overcome a conflict and repair their relationship.
Counseling is a long-term, ongoing strategy designed to examine personal issues that may contribute to unhappy relationships. A counselor is trained to dig into the past, pinpointing and analyzing past events to try to determine their impact on current behavior.
In contrast, dispute resolution is focused on resolving a present issue in order to create a harmonious relationship for the future. The couples I see in my dispute resolution practice are here because they just need to tackle a big relationship stumbling block and get it resolved, once and for all.
Many need help clarifying their concerns so that they can get to the heart of the conflict. Most need help learning how to effectively communicate with each other. Some seem to have reached an impasse because they have completely different goals, and they don’t know how to move forward together.
These couples need help, and they need it fast. They don’t want or need to go through the deep dive into their psyches that’s involved in ongoing counseling. They just want to resolve a dispute, put it behind them, and move forward with a clean slate.
Dispute resolution can help couples achieve that goal in just a few sessions, and at the same time, equip them with tools and techniques they can use to prevent and resolve future conflicts. As a trained relationship mediator, I facilitate two-way communication that helps couples quickly identify their deepest motivations, understand the other person’s point of view, and work together to come to an agreement that’s mutually satisfactory.
The dispute resolution process is an excellent first step in quickly resolving the conflict that’s holding you back. So if you’re ready to repair your relationship, read about the four stages to resolving disputes, or contact me to schedule an appointment.